After the initial high wears off from getting engaged, it’s oftentimes replaced with the daunting and vague task of actually planning the wedding.
A wedding, whether big and elaborate or small and minimal, is undoubtedly one of the most significant celebrations you will ever plan. With that, brings a lot of decisions to make and tasks to complete. But where should you even begin? You may think that the logical first step in planning your wedding is choosing your wedding venue or selecting your wedding date or possibly setting a realistic budget right? Well, I strongly believe that, although these tasks should be completed early on in the planning process, there is a much big first step that will set the tone for the entire planning process.
The first thing you should do before you begin planning your wedding is have an open and candid discussion with your fiancé where you get on the same page on specific topics ranging from what your individual and collective priorities are with your wedding, how financial and planning decisions will be made and how inevitable conflicts will be handled with family and wedding party members during the planning process.
Family members also seem to always want to interfere with the planning process in some way. So, when aunt Joy wants to invite her entire church to the wedding when you’re already over capacity or you received a quote for your wedding cake vendor that will take you over budget (and you don’t even like cake like that) or your fiancé’s mom wants you to change the ceremony program you’ve worked on for weeks because that’s how she did it at her wedding, how are you and your fiancé going to handle that together as a couple? How involved do each of you want to be in the planning process? How will you two go about making the countless decisions needed? How will your current work schedule affect the planning process? What do you two expect of each other?
Planning your wedding is a team effort and may be your first taste of married life since you’ll be constantly working through difficult decisions, family drama, compromise, communication and finances.
One thing I’ve noticed is that there is a big difference in the planning process of clients who do not have this conversation before they start planning versus clients who do. Having all of these questions answered makes planning so much easier. It sets expectations and boundaries early on. Which, believe me, is important.
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Happy New year!!!!! Thank you…Thank you…Thank you!!! I truly appreciate your never ending support and i am forever grateful! Last year there were several engagement shoots i was unable to share on my blog. I will dedicate the first couple of weeks in January to sharing many of these shoot. I realize they can be a source of inspiration for many couples that are planning their engagement shoots or that are recently engaged.
To start off i would like to share Olumide and Bidemi’s EPIC havana, Cuba Shoot! This was such an amazing experience. We had so much fun that we had to do it again the next day! We shot at a historic park , La Guarida, Havana Cathedral, Santa María, Ciudad De La Habana, Old Havana and wrapped up the shoot Cuba beach! What an amazing 2 day experience! I love shooting destination engagement shoots because of the limitless opportunities to create wonderful imagery. This lovely engagement shoot was also featured in the MunaLuchi Bride Magazine Spring 2018 Magazine . Print Copies Available for Order HERE!
Check out their images below and a little about this wonderful couple!
How they met:
During a casual conversation, my mom told me about a guy that one of her friends wanted me to meet, and of course I was totally done with the idea of hookups. That just wasn’t my thing anymore. Eventually, I decided to be “open minded” with the intention to brush him off whenever he called. You know one of those moves you pull when you don’t want your mom to think you don’t take your love life seriously so you just kinda go with the flow? Yeah. So I nonchalantly agreed to pass on my number to him. Her friend forwarded my number to him and let me tell you, he wasted no time calling me. First couple of conversations was quite basic. It flowed but still basic. He definitely caught my attention when he screenshot me tickets to a basketball game and dinner reservations as a first date invitation, his initiative was very attractive. Then I actually started liking this guy! Like I couldn’t believe I was feeling the “hook up!” The chemistry became evident and the rest goes in the history books!
Fast forward to the proposal, I coordinated a dinner party with our friends and family for his birthday. So as people are arriving we’re mingling and having a good time. One of my blogger BFFs had always raved about this nail line that she promotes. She’d been telling me that she would give me a set the next time she sees me, so she brought them along to dinner. On the other hand I’m a florist, so it’s no surprise that my nails weren’t manicured to perfection. So she’s like “oh I have the new nail art kit, let me do your nails before we forget again.” Mind you, the nail kit literally takes like 2 minutes, and my friend is really into them, so the idea wasn’t alarming at all! We’re girls; we do random things all the time!
So we’re all catching up, dinner is over and it’s almost dessert time. He excuses himself and heads for a restroom break. He comes back holding a cake and a dozen roses with sparklers on the cake. So here I am so confused and asking a bunch of questions; “Why is he holding the cake? That’s not even the cake I ordered. Did the server give him the wrong cake? The server is supposed to bring the cake out! Why is HE carrying it? And it’s the wrong cake!” I was completely confused. Meanwhile, my friends and family are standing around the table with their phone flashing, no one is saying anything, and they were just smirking giving me that playful “I don’t know” look and singing “happy birthday” which really had me confused. I’m a planner so I don’t like when I plan gatherings and they’re not going as planned. I was still trying to figure out why he was carrying the wrong cake! And then he gets on one knee, and the cake reads “Will You Marry Me?” with a ring in his hand. I was shocked! To the MAX! I could not believe it! I. WAS. IN.TOTAL. DISBELIEF! It was a true surprise as his birthday dinner turned into our engagement night. And just in case you were wondering. We did eventually find and eat the birthday cake I ordered him!
Engagement session Experience:
Our engagement shoot was fun and colorful. We wanted to incorporate our personal lives into our shoot, so since we both enjoy traveling, we decided to go on vacation and execute our engagement shoot while we were on vacation. On a relaxing evening, while playing our favorite board game called Ludo, we had agreed that the winner of the game would pick the destination of our vacation and engagement shoot; which of course I won (the bride) … so here we come Havana, Cuba! Ludo is a board game we are both very fond of, so we incorporated it into our shoot by personalizing our pictures and our save the date on it. We also incorporated our personal lives into our shoot by adding a bicycle riding scene into the shoot. Abidemi actually taught me how to ride a bike and it was such a great experience we both cherished because it was something I have always wanted to learn how to do. Our photographer, Fotos by Fola, was very helpful in our engagement shoot process. We chatted and bounced ideas off of each other and upon his arrival to Cuba, we finalized all the ideas and shot the next day. Our shoot was fun, playful and it definitely showcases the dynamics of our relationship. We play, we chill, and we absolutely love to get all dressed up.
Hello there! I am so happy to share Sara and Kennie’s Engagement Shoot. I remember chatting with Sara and her telling me she would love to do her shoot in New York! I was super excited about the opportunity to shoot in the Big Apple. We shot all over the city from Manhattan to Dumbo, to the meat packing district to Brooklyn bridge to Buka resturant to Gantry Plaza park … the list goes on. I really love the city vibe in New York and can’t wait to shoot there again. Sara and Kennie are such a fun couple. We shared so many laughs together and it felt i had known them both for years. Sara is from Jamaica and Kennie is from Nigeria. Looking forward to this amazing fusion wedding! Check out some images from the shoot. Enjoy!
Hello Friends, Thanks for swinging by. I am sharing Whitney and Jerome’s beautiful mansion wedding today. I really loved shooting this wedding. Great people and really good food! What else can you ask for 🙂 . The first time i met with Whitney we instantly clicked. We talked for an extended time and it felt like no time at all. I believe in working with couples that are the right fit. When the “right fit” occurs it makes for a great experience not just for the couple but also for me as a photographer. Whitney and Jerome are just straight up cool people and i am glad they brought me along their incredible journey. Congrats guys! I wish you a blessed and happy married life. Check out some images from this awesome day! Wedding took place at the Callanwolde Fine Arts Center. Planned by Niq Williams Events. Getting ready hotel was the Loews Atlanta Hotel. Enjoy!
Hello Friends! I am excited to share with you NaPortia and Kellen’s beautiful rooftop wedding! Check out their Engagement Shoot here . I met NaPortia a few years ago at Kiersten (kellen’s sister) and Julien’s wedding. I remember when she came up to me and told me when its her time i will shoot her wedding!! Fast forward a few years later i received a call from her and the rest is history! I loved everything about their wedding and I am so happy i was a part of it. Congrats to NaPortia and Kellen. The wedding took place at The Peachtree Club. Check out some images from the day!
Hello Friends! Thank you for stopping by the blog. Today i have Andrea and Brandon’s wedding on the blog! This wedding was also featured in the Munaluchi 2017 Winter Print Magazine. It was a wonderful wedding from start to finish. It was such a joy capturing Andrea and Brandon’s beautiful wedding. The wedding took place at the historic Georgian Terrace hotel. Check out their story below. Enjoy. Congrats to this amazing couple!
How they met:
Brandon and I met on an online dating app. What is interesting is that I had almost given up using the app as a way to meet new people. Brandon happened to be the last person that messaged me before I deactivated my account. We conversed for about a month before we finally decided to go on a date. Our first date was at a restaurant and bar in San Antonio, TX. We instantly hit it off. After dating for about 3 months, I got word of an excellent opportunity that required me to relocate to Hawaii. Brandon and I decided we would commit to a long distance relationship.
After over a year being apart, we decided we would take a cruise. The night before we were to sail off, Brandon took me to a restaurant in the Pearl District of San Antonio. After dinner, Brandon suggested that we walk around and take in the beautiful scenery. During our walk, Brandon shared his plans in life and how he wanted me to be a part of it. He also expressed our deep love for each other. As we headed back to the car to return home, Brandon stopped once more. This time, he was on one knee with a white box in his hands, and the words “Will you marry me,” came out of his mouth. Filled with joy and excitement, I shouted “YES!”
Hello! It’s been a busy last couple of weeks. I am extremely grateful for all the wonderful couples who trust Fotos by Fola to capture their special memories! Today, i am excited to share some images from Georgette and Edwin’s wedding. After shooting this wedding i realized Cameroonians sure know how to party. I love capturing different cultures because you never know what to expect and this wedding was so much fun! Thank you Georgette and Edwin for allowing me to be a part of your day. Congrats once again!! Check out some images from the day. The wedding Ceremony took place at the Bascilica of the Sacred Heart of Jesus Christ Atlanta and reception at The Temple Atlanta. Event was planned by Niq Williams Events.
Hello!! Thank you for swinging by. Today is Whitney and Jerome’s Wedding day!!! So excited. They are such a fun and cool couple. I had soo much fun shooting their engagement shoot as we went all around Atlanta. Whitney and Jerome wanted an edgy/raw engagement shoot that showcased Atlanta and their fun personalities. I really think we nailed it. We started out at the Underground Atlanta then Old Fourth Ward Park and ended the shoot at the Jackson Street bridge. Looking forward to capturing their big day today!! Check out some images from the shoot. Enjoy! Happy Saint Patrick’s Day!!
Hello friends! I really appreciate you dropping by. Last October i was blessed with the opportunity to travel to Chicago for the very first time! Martinique and Harrell flew me out just to be a part of their special day. Truly grateful!! I enjoyed every minute of this wedding. If i had to describe this wedding in one word it would be “PARTY!” . It was a party from the start all the way to the end. I could feel the energy and love in the building. Congrats to this amazing couple. The wedding took place at the Abbington Distinctive Banquets. Check out some images from the day. Enjoy!